I’ve been a wife for 57 years, a mother for 51 years, and a grandmother for 28 years. My family has given me my greatest joys and I consider them my proudest accomplishment. I think of my eights grands as a heavenly reward and am often accused of spoiling them too much. I tell my children, “That’s what grandmothers are for, it’s my job.”
My mom gave me the courage to try again when I failed; she made me believe I could accomplish anything I wanted and nothing was too much to attain. She was my encourager and champion. Everything was always going to be okay and she never failed to tell everyone she knew how proud she was of her daughter. My mom went home to be with her Lord almost ten years ago, but the years have not diminished my yearning to call her and share some silly thing or just to thank her for being my mother. Her passing has left a hole in my heart but the memories she made with her family live forever.
The day to day of raising children can become hectic, and it’s rare that mothers think of their importance as they go about laundry, cooking, transporting, encouraging, running that paper or lunch back to school that was forgotten at home and the many other little things that make up a day, as much as they think of just doing what they do because the children have a need.
Mothers are the first example children get of how to deal with life, they are certainly the most influential person in a child’s life. Children imitate Mom; they learn from her and mimic what they learn. Mothers set the stage of life for their children and set the tone or mood of almost every household.
Let’s be clear here, mothers are not only women who have given birth. Rather mothers are those who have nurtured a child, who have set themselves aside to put a child’s needs first. Mothers are those who have given special band aids or just soothed a cranky child out of a bad mood. Mothers go without a new blouse or shoes so their children can be clothed or fed, or just made warm and comfortable and secure first. Mothers think of that special cereal a child likes, attend school events even though their day was just horrible themselves, and drag themselves out of sick beds to be there for their children. Mothers do homework and wipe dirty faces. Mothers love their children fiercely and will defend them to the death.
In the month of May we celebrate Mother’s Day. A day set apart to tell mothers and grandmothers, aunts who have been like mothers, even neighbors who have played the role for motherless or otherwise neglected children, how important they are in our lives.
So to all those women everywhere, stand tall and recognize the valuable blessing you have been given. Cherish the life in your care. It might mean reorganizing some priorities and your own desires, but take it from me, you will never be sorry. This mother and grandmother is definitely advancing in age now but I can tell you with absolute certainty, my children and grandchildren are a joy to my old age.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts in her, so that he shall have no need of regret. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Strength and honor are her clothing, and she shall rejoice in time to come. She opened her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looked well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the Lord, she shall be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates.” Proverbs 31.
– Brenda Nardo